You diet, you fail, guess what, it is not your fault!

I have the TV on while I do some housework and from the distance I can hear the statement. Yet another company selling a miracle on a pill because being fat is not my fault.
Well, guess what? The first thing to getting somewhere in this game is admitting that you are responsible for what you put in your mouth, and how you take care of yourself. If you are not willing to do the work to get better with yourself, the weight is not going to change much.
Don't take me wrong. The pills will work, and you will loose the weight. But if you don't do the work to find the reasons why you overeat in the first place, you better keep taking that pill for the rest of your life.
In the last thirty years I have noticed how society has found ways in excusing all kinds of behaviors. If you have a rowdy child, he has ADD. If your marriage is on the rocks, you might have co-dependence issues. If you are fat, it is not your fault. You have a hormone that is to blame. Funny, I don't recall people 20 years ago being affected by any hormone. The ones who took the time to attack weight in all fronts: food, exercise, psychological issues, environment... those where the ones who lost the weight and never gained it back. Let's face it, society has a label for every possible behavior, and we are suckers for it.
I say it stops with me. I gained the weight. I have issues that I have to deal with. I am not terribly happy with the way my life turned out and I console myself with food. True, really good food because I don't care for junk food (which of course means I spend too much money eating out, but that goes under financial and not weight problems, LOL). In a nutshell, it is my fault that I gained up to 90 pounds. It is my fault that I stalled in the beginning of the year. And it is my RESPONSIBILITY to take over my life and change it for the better. Do you have anything you need to accept responsibility for? Is a pill going to help with the real problem?

The power of endorphins

First thing: I am sorry I have "disappeared" for the last week. I was doing really well and between the job search not going real well and the stress of regular life, I forgot to post.
Second: It is really amazing that my friends and family are not posting answers here but I am getting responses from complete strangers. This is the true power of the internet and I am deeply touched by your encouragement. Thank you. Now for my friends and family, don't email me about this stuff. Write it here. I am checking up on you guys and I love the support. You guys have given me some great answers that I would like to share with others.
Now for the endorphins thing. I am not going to give you some scientific explanation or medical information. I am talking from experience. Now we all know that women tend to get a little touchy at certain times of the month. Add to that the regular stress of life and you have a combo for mild depression. The solution came from the booming voice of my daughter's father. He told me to get off my butt and go for a walk. And we did. For two days now we have gone for a four mile walk around the neighborhood in the early hours of the morning. He said the exercise would lift my spirits. It did more than that. I got rid of my back pain, (ok, my legs are sore but I'd rather be sore from that), I feel less sad and more importantly, I am awake. Usually I go for the POWER NAP (about an hour and a half) and now I only need twenty minutes. It is getting me back to where I was before December, where I walked 3 times a week and exercised at home. It broke the rut and I feel great. Plus, I have not gained any weight back because my eating habits are not that terrible. So get off your butts, and do something. For those of you in cold weather, walk the mall. Just don't take any money if you are strapped for cash. I don't want to feel responsible for a financial crisis, LOL. Hope to hear from you soon.