Bullies, what they do to your health and well being.

I just saw a commercial for something called online bullying, something about talking trash on the internet because it is anonymous and people not having the balls to say it to your face.

I have been bullied all my life. When I was in middle school, the coolest kid in the class used to call me "witch" because I was so ugly. Back then, he was not considered a bully, he was just considered cute. I used to have a crush on said bully, so I did not protest either. At the end of 7th grade, I slapped him twice and told him never to call me a witch again....I also reminded him that as a close, personal friend, I had a lot of dirt on him. He stopped.

When I went to high school, I moved to a new town, Dorado,PR. The kids there hated me, tried to run me over with their cars, threw baskets of eggs at my house, called me "Pelua" and did a whole bunch of things to me. Eventually I ignored them, at least in public, but in private, I cried myself to sleep every night, until I discovered a whole bunch of boys who thought I was cute, and they helped me get even.

Now as an adult, I find out that again, I am being bullied by an old high school friend. But you know what? There is a cliche that applies to this situation: they cannot bully you around, unless you let them.

The truth is, your health and your well being can only be affected by one person, you. If you let them get to you, it is not their fault, it is yours. Don't let them win.

I have spent a long time blaming others for my unhappiness...they called me fat, they said I was ugly, they said I am stupid. In the end, it is only truth if you believe it. And if you believe it, they win.

Keep trying.